+++sorry if this is depressing, it certainly isn't meant to be it really is just a rambling curious brain+++
And with whom?
Do you have things that you just don’t talk about with certain people? Like I know most people don’t talk about sex with their mom’s, and the opening of jobs with their bosses, and tampons with men… You know it is that social or comfort barrier thing, but are there other things you don’t talk about? Or other things you just don’t talk about with some people?
I have noticed this in myself lately and I am not sure if it’s a good thing or a bad or just a thing, you know? Part of it is I am certain that I am on a different plane than some of my friends right now and who knows if we can relate with one another and then if you can’t there is that whole awkward silence and (for me at least) you realize you once again are just odd person out. I know that this is really just a rambling post about nothingness but I was just thinking about it.
But it seems to me that I have segregated myself into the person I am (I know that doesn’t make sense but follow me for a minute here) everyone that I know (are there others I don’t know about probably and I wish they would comment so I could make new friends) of who reads this is someone I know (and probably love) but with some of you I talk about crafts, and with a few I talk about my mom, and there is one person I feel like I can talk to about my house, some that I talk about marriage to and some that I chatter endlessly about jewelry to, and none that really want to hear about my horses (those people don’t read my blog), many I complain about my job to and I am sure many other facets of my life that I have separated like oil and water and I wonder why that is? Does everyone do that?
I am not complaining in the least – I am overall very happy with my life and my friendships but it occurs to me that when I die and my friends get together for a funeral (although I think I have decided to forgo) they would be like ahhh yes remember how Joy thought so much about her house before putting in the pellet stove (or appliances or whatever) and others would look at that person like really? And then they may talk about the sadness my mom getting sicker was causing me and there are some who would say “really she dealt with it so easily” and more and more I am sure – odd huh?
I am thinking if I went over to XYZ’s friends house (let’s say a friend with whom I talk about crafts – since this started as a craft blog) and said yeah so THIS is going on in my life they would probably sit and listen and be the wonderful friends that you all are but I guess that it would never occur to me.
Do you do this?
Am I alone in it?
Is there a reason we (yes I am assuming we all do this) do this?
Is it a form of self preservation?
Heck I have friends who I never told mom was sick because then I had someone to call just to chat and not think about it? You know How’s the family? Same old same old, did you see the sales that Macy’s is having on shoes? So weird…
Anyway hugs to all of you and thanks for being a facet!
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I completely understand. I do this to a point. I feel very forutnate to have the great friends that I have. There's a lot of stuff about me and my life that I'm very open about and share with most people. Then there are some people that know a little more, others know just about everything, and with some I share certain secrets. I think it's normal. I think it's natural in relationships to have different interests and different levels of comfort/friendship. I think the best part though is that all of them care about YOU as you care about them. Even if it's a friend you only discuss jewelry with, hands down I'm sure she would be there to listen when/if you need her about just about anything you had to say.
I love you!!!!
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I think we all do this. There are work friends, work friends you see outside of work, high school friends, college friends, craft friends, etc. We tend to talk about common interests and experiences with each group.
I do this all the time. I'm trying to not do it as much, but I think it's entirely natural that we have different friends who fill different needs.
I promise to never judge you about whatever you need to talk with me about. Really. And I promise to try to give you space with whatever you need to keep to yourself.
Love you.
I definitely think we all do this. We (or maybe it's just me) just all have to remember that it's not something personal when someone says, "Oh xyz told me about <*insert important thing in their life*> and you have no idea b/c xyz didn't tell you.
Plus, a lot of times you don't want to keep sharing the hard stuff with a bunch of people b/c it means reliving it over and over.
In any case.....LOVE YOU! And you can share whater you want, whenever you want. xoxox
hey...your smitty here.
love you and agree with everyone on this post comment....
At my funeral, I'm sure one person will tell a story about me and the next will go running to the casket to have a look and be sure they are in the right room! It's the nature of having a multi-faceted and rich life... you are different things to different people -- and they, to you. It's all good, dear... what matters is that you feel that your interactions with all these people -- despite the topics at hand -- are authentic and meaningful. That's my free opinion, anyway... worth what you paid, I'm sure!!
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